MY EARS ARE ALL OPEN WHEN YOU WANT TO TALK ABOUT THINGS
"MY EARS ARE ALL OPEN WHEN YOU WANT TO TALK ABOUT THINGS. MY MIND, AND MY HEART, WILL UNDERSTAND YOUR WORDS NO MATTER HOW DREADFUL IT IS. TALK, AND I WILL LISTEN. EXPRESS, AND I WILL UNDERSTAND. I WILL NOT JUDGE YOU. NO. I WOULDN'T DO THAT BECAUSE I LOVE YOU. ALL POSSIBILITIES ARE WELCOME. I AM READY TO ACCEPT YOUR TRUTH. I WILL GIVE YOU TIME AND SPACE FOR YOU TO GROW. AND WHEN IN TIME, YOU FIND ME NOT SUITABLE, IF ONE TIME, YOU FIND ME UNWORTHY OF YOUR LOVE, COME AND TALK TO ME. I WILL LISTEN. AND I WILL NOT JUDGE. I LOVE YOU THAT MUCH THAT I AM WILLING TO GIVE YOU WHAT YOU NEED EVEN FREEDOM. BUT FOR NOW, LET'S SAVOR THE MOMENT WE HAVE. AND LET US NOT DO CRAZY THINGS THAT WILL DESTROY WHAT WE WORKED HARD FOR IN YEARS. I LOVE YOU."
this is what i always say to my bf whenever we had serious talks... this is not a "guilt crusher". this is simply, my way of letting him know that he can trust me. that he can tell me anyhting. that no matter how bad things get, i will always listen to him, and i will always try to understand. this is not easy... especially when deep emotions are attached. but i am lucky, that in time, we both helped each other how to grow... we taught each other how to trust each other and respect our differences. we've had clutters too. and sure as the sun, we will have more. our relationship, is a continuous process of learning and discovery. i can say that i owe him a lot... and he too, learned a lot from me. that, i am certain.
we have this relationship which is quite similar to others. we've had problems, issues, fights, laughs, talks (millions of it), tantrums, everything.
just like other couples, we've had times when we just want to give up.
but we never let that happen.
because, at the end of the day, we always end up patching things, making amends, reconcillation, peace.
we always end up together. because, we just couldn't let go.
no.
no matter how worst we are as a couple.
no matter how our smarts always clash.
no matter how naggy i am.
no matter how bad his temper is...
no matter how imperfect we are as individuals - and as a couple.
we just couldn't let go.
we just couldn't leave each other to rot in our baddness.
no.
no matter how bad things get.
i couldn't leave him.
and he couldn't leave me.
because we both knew, we love each other and that we have to stay together to help bring out the best in ourselves, and our relationship.
we are not perfect.
we will never be.
but i hope, our relationship, our respect, trust and understanding,
can help those who feel like giving up, and letting each other go because of betrayal, pain, hurt.
i would like to share my thoughts,
so it may help others.
there are people, who uses leaving as a threat... ito yung nakakalungkot... na parang ginagawa nilang punishment ang pangiiwan sa isang taong pumalyang paligayahin sila...
this, i learned through time...
that no matter how you love each other, there will always come a point na madidisappoint ka ng taong mahal mo at inaasahan mong magmamahal at magaalaga sayo...
ito ang mali sa ibang tao...
at naging mali ko dati.
i expected too much.
like, "I AM HONEST. SO BE HONEST TO ME. I AM LOYAL SO YOU SHOULD BE LOYAL. I AM THIS, YOU SHOULD BE LIKE THIS. I AM ALL THAT GOOD SO YOU SHOULD BE GOOD BECAUSE I DESERVE IT." maraming tao ang may ganyang mentality. TRUE. EVERYONE DESERVES TO BE TREATED RIGHT. EVERONE DESERVES THE BEST.
but, it always depends on the capabilty of the other person. we don't have the power to impose our views to our partners as much as they can not impose all their beliefs in us. maraming tao ang, "niloko nya ako... ginago nya ako... tinanga nya ako...kaya dapat iwan ko sya." nang hindi manlang iniisip, kung nagawa ba nila ng maayos at mabuti ang part nila bilang partner.
dahil kung nagawa mo talaga ang dapat mong gawin, at nagampanan mo ang role mo, bilang partner, walang rason para bumitaw ka... dahil kaya ka nga nandyan, para turuan sya, at para hindi iasa ang trabaho ng pagbabago sa kanya...
AS A PARTNER, YOU SHOULD GIVE IT YOUR BEST TO BRING OUT THE BEST IN YOUR OTHER HALF. hindi yung lugmok na nga yung tao, iiwan mo pa sa ere...
ang lahat ay nadadaan sa usapan...
halimbawang niloko ka ng partner mo, hindi tamang basta exit ka nalang dhil nasaktan ka...
bilang tao, may kapasidad kang mag-isip ng tama...
at may kakayahan kang tumulong.
tumulong ka hangga't makakaya mo...
pwede kang tumulong ng hindi ka nagpapaloko...
hindi mo kailangang maging martir at lunukin ang panloloko...
pero, maniwala kang, higit kaninu man, ikaw ang may higit na kapangyarihan para itama ang anumang mali...
hayaan mong bukas ang iyong puso para tulungang mabago ang dapat mabago...
ang pangiiwan sa taong minamahal ay palatandaan ng kahinaan...
hindi mo masasabing mahal mong tunay ang isang tao kung agad-agad mo lang syang tatalikuran.
this is what i always say to my bf whenever we had serious talks... this is not a "guilt crusher". this is simply, my way of letting him know that he can trust me. that he can tell me anyhting. that no matter how bad things get, i will always listen to him, and i will always try to understand. this is not easy... especially when deep emotions are attached. but i am lucky, that in time, we both helped each other how to grow... we taught each other how to trust each other and respect our differences. we've had clutters too. and sure as the sun, we will have more. our relationship, is a continuous process of learning and discovery. i can say that i owe him a lot... and he too, learned a lot from me. that, i am certain.
we have this relationship which is quite similar to others. we've had problems, issues, fights, laughs, talks (millions of it), tantrums, everything.
just like other couples, we've had times when we just want to give up.
but we never let that happen.
because, at the end of the day, we always end up patching things, making amends, reconcillation, peace.
we always end up together. because, we just couldn't let go.
no.
no matter how worst we are as a couple.
no matter how our smarts always clash.
no matter how naggy i am.
no matter how bad his temper is...
no matter how imperfect we are as individuals - and as a couple.
we just couldn't let go.
we just couldn't leave each other to rot in our baddness.
no.
no matter how bad things get.
i couldn't leave him.
and he couldn't leave me.
because we both knew, we love each other and that we have to stay together to help bring out the best in ourselves, and our relationship.
we are not perfect.
we will never be.
but i hope, our relationship, our respect, trust and understanding,
can help those who feel like giving up, and letting each other go because of betrayal, pain, hurt.
i would like to share my thoughts,
so it may help others.
there are people, who uses leaving as a threat... ito yung nakakalungkot... na parang ginagawa nilang punishment ang pangiiwan sa isang taong pumalyang paligayahin sila...
this, i learned through time...
that no matter how you love each other, there will always come a point na madidisappoint ka ng taong mahal mo at inaasahan mong magmamahal at magaalaga sayo...
ito ang mali sa ibang tao...
at naging mali ko dati.
i expected too much.
like, "I AM HONEST. SO BE HONEST TO ME. I AM LOYAL SO YOU SHOULD BE LOYAL. I AM THIS, YOU SHOULD BE LIKE THIS. I AM ALL THAT GOOD SO YOU SHOULD BE GOOD BECAUSE I DESERVE IT." maraming tao ang may ganyang mentality. TRUE. EVERYONE DESERVES TO BE TREATED RIGHT. EVERONE DESERVES THE BEST.
but, it always depends on the capabilty of the other person. we don't have the power to impose our views to our partners as much as they can not impose all their beliefs in us. maraming tao ang, "niloko nya ako... ginago nya ako... tinanga nya ako...kaya dapat iwan ko sya." nang hindi manlang iniisip, kung nagawa ba nila ng maayos at mabuti ang part nila bilang partner.
dahil kung nagawa mo talaga ang dapat mong gawin, at nagampanan mo ang role mo, bilang partner, walang rason para bumitaw ka... dahil kaya ka nga nandyan, para turuan sya, at para hindi iasa ang trabaho ng pagbabago sa kanya...
AS A PARTNER, YOU SHOULD GIVE IT YOUR BEST TO BRING OUT THE BEST IN YOUR OTHER HALF. hindi yung lugmok na nga yung tao, iiwan mo pa sa ere...
ang lahat ay nadadaan sa usapan...
halimbawang niloko ka ng partner mo, hindi tamang basta exit ka nalang dhil nasaktan ka...
bilang tao, may kapasidad kang mag-isip ng tama...
at may kakayahan kang tumulong.
tumulong ka hangga't makakaya mo...
pwede kang tumulong ng hindi ka nagpapaloko...
hindi mo kailangang maging martir at lunukin ang panloloko...
pero, maniwala kang, higit kaninu man, ikaw ang may higit na kapangyarihan para itama ang anumang mali...
hayaan mong bukas ang iyong puso para tulungang mabago ang dapat mabago...
ang pangiiwan sa taong minamahal ay palatandaan ng kahinaan...
hindi mo masasabing mahal mong tunay ang isang tao kung agad-agad mo lang syang tatalikuran.
No comments:
Post a Comment